Mental health issues are rising!
Physical health issues are rising!
Resilience and ability to overcome challenges are falling!
What’s going on?
Why are people struggling more with life than they were a few years ago?
Is the introduction of social media a cause?
Are poor eating habits to blame?
Is lack of exercise a problem?
I could share statistics and graphs to show you an increase in issues but instead I want you to look around you and listen to conversations around you, in work, in your social circles and in public.
Just today, I overheard people talking about leaving their jobs due to added stress coming from senior management.
I saw a mother stressed out with her young child in the supermarket and have had open conversations with people who openly spoke about their anxiety.
The NHS is struggling, creaking under the pressure of people being diagnosed with anxiety and depression, waiting times are on the increase and just a few weeks ago, targets were not being met.
“Something different needs to be done!”
I believe us humans have an inner strength many of us don’t realise we have.
But rather than focus on drawing out and nurturing that inner strength, that self-compassion and ability to look after our bodies and minds, we allow other insignificant people and situations drag us down.
We fail to give ourselves permission to say no!
We fail to give ourselves permission to say enough is enough!
Let me ask you this – Whatever is bothering you right now, are you willing to do something about it or are you tolerating it to keep the peace?
Has something been bothering you for that long, you know you’ve changed as a person but you believe a sign of strength is to get through adversity?
You only have one life!
Doing something about it is a sign of strength and courage.
You only get one go at this life so if something is bothering you or you’ve been tolerating something for so long, it’s time to do things differently.
I was speaking with a friend earlier who suffers from nerves during her driving lessons. She’s had many lessons with the same instructor and feels she’s hit a wall. She felt stuck and thinks her nerves are stopping her from feeling ready to be put in for her test.
But here’s the weird thing.
When she consciously gave herself permission to think about changing instructors, she suddenly relaxed and had the best lesson ever!
Even her instructor said so!
Allowing herself to consider a new perspective, changed her mindset and therefore thinking which led to an improved behaviour.
Imagine you’re working in a job you tolerate, perhaps hate, and you’re tolerating it. You’re frustrated but you need to pay the bills. So you crack on but look for jobs.
Then you get offered a job!
That sense of relief can be an amazing feeling and can relax the mind in an instance, just be hearing the words “We’d like to offer you the job”
We have the power within us to change the internal dialogue that allows us to move forward and change for the better.
But very few people know how.
Professional sports men and women feel they have to tolerate situations because getting paid to play sports is all they know; especially footballers and because it’s so competitive, those who are suffering are fearful of opening up or talking about it in case they lose their place in the team or are ridiculed.
So they find themselves in a downward spiral, gambling, staying in their rooms during the day with the curtains closed and even worse…
I want to share with you three tips that can help you improve your situation right now…
- Ask yourself “What do I want my ideal situation to be?”
- Then ask “What can I let go of, or introduce to my life to take one step towards that ideal situation?”
- And finally “When will I let go or introduce that thing to allow myself to take one step towards my ideal situation?”
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Take it easy