If you don’t think losing sucks then perhaps you’re not as competitive as you thought you were and your mind just isn’t primed for success?
That feeling of losing hits you when you when the clock has run out, the race ends and the result hasn’t gone in your favour.
What was the point!
What a f@cking disappointment!
How did that happen!
That moment of realisation can hit you hard but let me tell you this secret…
That moment of realisation is just one moment in time and is a small piece in the bigger picture
That moment of realisation provides you with valuable feedback
That moment of realisation is a learning experience
You weren’t the first and you won’t be the last to lose and what you do immediately afterwards will affect your future performances which leads me to ask the question – do you want to continue to improve?
One of the first thoughts you should get used to is accepting you lost. Accept on this occasion the chips didn’t fall in your favour, yet you leverage that pain and frustration and use that energy to analyse, break down and practice smarter ready for next time.
Some say you shouldn’t accept losing because losing makes you weak!
Bullsh@t! When you tell yourself not to accept losing, you are only setting unrealistic expectations and setting unrealistic expectations only leads to constant frustration and pressure
Losing is always an option!
The other question I want to ask you is – Did you do everything you could with the information you had to do your best?
Questions to help you grow
Common questions to ask yourself include:
- Did I get enough sleep?
- Was anything distracting me (phone, other person, a challenging life event)?
- Was I relying too much on my reputation?
- Was my training purposeful and smart?
When you ask yourself these questions and find the truth, there is one other question you must ask which is – What can I do differently next time?
Being part of this academy allows you to explore your thoughts, ideas and concerns in a safe place without the fear of being criticised or judged. The academy invites you to engage and ask questions and share your frustrations so solutions can be found fast.
Your mind is much more powerful than you give it credit for and as the academy shares more insights with you, you’ll see the bigger picture forming and with that in mind, ask yourself one final question and let me know the answer – What do you do when you lose and what can you do differently?
Compete with purpose!