Getting unstuck and leaving frustrations behind – The Elite Mindset strategy

Do you feel stuck?

Do you feel something needs to change but you’re in a vicious circle?

When talking about problems, it’s unfair on yourself to try to deal with things that have happened, or things that may or may not happen in the future so you can only work with the NOW.

But many people become slaves of the past or future.

Many people live their lives because of thoughts, ideas and fears they have brought forward to the present; or they fear the future. 

Learn to appreciate today more, when you understand how free you are, unless you perceive yourself to be trapped or stuck!

If you feel insignificant, then ask yourself if you want to be significant? 

Then ask yourself are you worthy? Are you valued?

These are just ideas and we buy into them because we act, speak and behave like we are.

For example when you tell yourself you don’t deserve good things to happen, you will act like you don’t deserve good things to happen to you.

You are always comparing yourself with where you want to be!  This becomes a notch, a question mark above our current identify misconception.

So how do you change?  How do you become unstuck and start to attract positive outcomes?

It starts with accepting your reality. Look under the rug, look over your shoulder and open your eyes and accept that where you are now, isn’t where you want to be. Own your realty and your self-worth will feel improved.

This acceptance gives you a new perspective, a new direction and opportunity to really ask the question,

“Where do I want to be?”

Begin to form a plan and a vision for your future knowing that when your self-worth increases, so do your opportunities.

Begin to make small steps towards that plan knowing you aren’t striving for perfection, but you are striving to be slightly better today, than you were yesterday and to be slightly better tomorrow than you are today.

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Women’s football is going places!

The thing is women’s football hasn’t just appeared! It’s been around for a long time but last night at an event that included insights from the Manchester United women’s manager Casey Stoney, The England assistant manger Bev Priestman, City manager Nick Cushing and city player Matilde Fidalgo, I learned the women’s game needs some support.

A passionate insight from Stoney focusing on more sport needs to be inserted into the primary curriculum was met with rounds of applause.

I too understand the value and power of using sports as a vehicle for education and learning yet it seems the value and power isn’t yet on a par with other subjects.

Priestman offered her insights of working with Phil Neville and how the two bring different insights to the team, Priestman more about the details and Phil about connecting with the players. It was great to hear how that relationship allows the players to be comfortable and valued at the same time.

Nick told some great stories, I won’t repeat them here, and he passionately talked about making small improvements and striving towards helping the game gain more exposure.

Matilde talked about the British game compared with the Portuguese game, saying the British women’s game here is ahead which was something that allowed her decision to come and play in England.

I was privileged to listen to their stories and insights and was grateful for their listening ear to my ideas around improving performance by a small margin that could help their players.

I have a deeper understanding of the women’s game now and know there are some right people in the right places.

Bev Priestman – England Assistant Coach. So humble yet knowledgeable

How to improve your teammates confidence quickly

A team is only as strong as it’s weakest link and that link will be exposed by a smart opponent.

So the value and importance of ensuring your team mates are performing as well as can be, will be clear in your games.

So how do you improve your team mates confidence quicky?

Here are three things you can do right now…

  • We all make mistakes. Some of us have learned to let mistakes go and move on quickly but some lesser team mates often blame themselves and feel guilty. When a team mate makes a mistake, the last thing they want is criticism from someone they look up to so show encouragement and support
  • Be a listening ear. Offer to sit with a lesser team mate and offer to listen to their ideas, concerns and examples of what they feel that can do differently or improve on. The power of actively listening will be acknowledged by your team mate and a stronger bond and understanding will be formed
  • Work smarter in training and set the example. We all know training sessions can be boring but when you understand training is a way to prepare your body and mind for game time, the perception of training becomes a positive one. When a lesser team mates sees you working smart, they will adjust and respect what you are accomplishing through smart work.

Making mental health a topic of conversation in sports

Who likes talking about mental health?

When I first learned the term many years ago, I associated the term with trouble, anxiety and something not being right, partnered with a sense of uncomfortable awkwardness.

It was something I’d avoid!

But now my perception has changed and with a deeper understanding, I’m trying to inspire others to understand it from a new perspective too.

Let’s begin…

Here’s a common definition of mental health…

“A state of wellbeing in which every individual realises his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community”

In addition it’s important to understand mental health can be positive, negative and balanced and our state is in constant flux as we navigate through our daily lives.

When we introduce the definition into sports we can say this…

A state of wellbeing in which every individual realises his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life and sports, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her sports community”

So far pretty straightforward right?

But here’s the issue. The normal stresses of life and sport can be exaggerated tenfold if not more, by any individual’s perception of a situation.

When there’s an abnormal level of stress in life and sports, mental health will lean towards negative and get stuck on negative. Something has happened and you don’t have the solution to deal with it.

Perhaps you’ve been transferred and feel alone?

Perhaps a new player has come in and now you’re out on the bench

Maybe there’s issues away from the game that distract you?

Maybe you’re about to retire and you have no idea what you’re going to do

Or perhaps you’re simply struggling?

And it’s at this point of realism that people suffer.

I’m sure you’ve seen YouTube videos and interviews with sports stars and celebrities talking about their own battles with mental health and through my research, there’s one common denominator…

They all wished they had spoken up sooner

But speaking up is half the battle. Why didn’t they speak up earlier? What made them think they had to hold in the debilitating thoughts? What emotions stopped them from talking?

Fear of being ridiculed. Fear of embarrassment, loss of kudos, ego, pride?

To change the perception of mental health, we have to understand three simple yet powerful steps, whether you are suffering or you’re a team mate or coach, please take these suggestions on board

  • Create a nurturing compassionate culture within your organisation by taking purposeful actions to allow people to talk openly, without judgement and criticism about their ideas and concerns
  • Spread the word that speaking up isn’t a weakness, but a definitive sign of courage
  • Give examples of what you can do differently. Take ownership for your mental health and know if something isn’t working, it’s time to seek out alternatives. (THERE ARE ALWAYS CHOICES)

Your mental health is worth much more than a contract, a large following on social media, the nice cars or the mansion. Your mental health is to be appreciated when times are good and to be challenged when things are a struggle.

Learn to enjoy the sport you play and be supportive of others and your sporting career won’t go far wrong.

Task giving back is a great way to find positive mental health. How can you use your position to help someone else? Perhaps offer a listening ear or offer your experience to the younger generation.

I invite comments, thoughts and questions and invite you to consider hiring me to help you.

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Your value as a professional football player is at risk!

Do you remember when you first kicked a ball?

Do you remember the passion and excitment as a younger player?

Then things changed.

Your ability was spotted by a scout and opportunities were presented to you.

Over time more people wanted to get to know you, advise you and guide you.

Your ability grew as did your income.
Before you knew it, people were offering you things you had only dreamed of.

Suddenly you realise the love and passion you had for the game have been replaced by trying to please others.

What happened?

When did things change?

The dark and cold truth is you’re now a commodity.
You have a limited use.
You are a pawn in a much bigger game.

People will try to bleed you dry and want to be your friend, thinking when they get in your inner circle, you’ll be easier to influence.

It’s time to play the game…it’s time to get yours.

So what if I told you, I can increase your value, kudos, exposure and performance using techniques only a handful of people are aware of?

What if I told you I’ll offer you full transparency on the strategy and techniques because my passion is driven by my success from coaching and mentoring athletes to overcome their own challenges in sports performance and life to create their own success.

I don’t want to be your friend. If I was your friend I’d be telling you things you want to hear, not things you need to hear to improve.

I want to help you, because helping you helps me.

One player I helped in only six hours, won their first ever MVP!

Now is the time to capitalise on your ability before others catch you up.

If you’re intrigued as to what you need to do to increase your value, kudos, exposure, performance and life, send me a private message.

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Does working hard guarantee success?

Working hard and training hard will give you some success.

As you work and train hard, your body grows and adapts as do your technical skills and abilities giving you some confidence in your ability to play well.

But…there’s another aspect of performance that many athletes pay little attention to. There’s an aspect that can give you a boost in performance just at the right moment, but in the same breath, can destroy you.

The aspect of performance we are talking about is the mind. Your mind is the most powerful tool you have yet to unleash.


Be honest with yourself. Have you always given your all in every game you’ve competed?

TASK – To find success you must prime your mind to focus on the right things at the right time without any distractions.

Next time you’re competing and you have a break in play, be mindful to ask yourself “What can I do to differently to improve my chances?”

Post your answers below

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The Journey Begins

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Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton