“When people honor each other, there is a trust established that leads to synergy, interdependence, and deep respect. Both parties make decisions and choices based on what is right, what is best, what is valued most highly.”Blaine Lee
The short message that had so much power
I’ve been let down in the past.
People have told me they can use my skills and abilities and the opportunity will happen soon, yet fail to produce that opportunity.
This has made me skeptical to offers. About four years ago I stupidly put my faith into one person who pretty much convinced me a new role had been created for me and it would be ready to start in September.
September came and went. He had no answers to me because the creation of the role was out of his hands and although his intentions came from a good place, the reality was, I had relied on this move happening and had mentally prepared to leave my day job. My respect for this person dropped immensely.
History has a sense of repeating itself and about a year and a half ago, another person promised me a role and sold the concept really well but this time I was more cautious.
Although my hopes were raised, my eggs weren’t all in one basket and when the opportunity failed to materialise, I shrugged it off. But my respect for this person dropped.
Something had to change and for change to happen I had to identify the pattern so I could change it. There is a pattern that has three key stages
- I reach out to others with my ambitions and abilities
- They suggest an opportunity
- The opportunity doesn’t happen
The feeling of disappointment when putting my faith into others, hurts and I had had enough.
I needed a mindset shift!
I had to shift from relying on others to make things happen, to relying on myself to make things happen.
This mindset doesn’t come naturally to me and the learning curve has been insightful and eye-opening and over the last few months, I’ve been having conversations with people that see the value in my skills, but rather than rely on them providing me with opportunities, I’ve been suggesting opportunities to them.
Mindset shifts are powerful and although I help others create mind shifts for improved performances, I had to reflect and have a word with myself to create change.
When people let me down now, I quickly put them to one side until they are ready, if ever, to prove themselves to me as that allows me to redirect my energies into my ambitions and growth.
After a phone call lasting about an hour, I learned we had a lot in common and what I offered would be beneficial to their cause.
I put something together based on our conversation and the direction they want to go in and popped it across in an email.
Later on that day, I received a message saying ‘spot on’.
That was all I needed to read.
You may be thinking this blog is a bit ambiguous and you’d be right.
One of the other lessons I’ve learned is to keep things under wraps until the I’s are dotted and the T’s crossed.
My journey to become the most sought after sports mental performance specialist is twisting and turning in new ways and I am practicing patience.
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