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The Journey To Become The Most Sought After Sports Mental Performance Specialist Part 3

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change”

Albert Einstein

What the actress said to the…

It was still 2013 and I’d helped a professional basketball player improve his scoring in an unbelievable manner and I was hungry for more success.

I assumed because I had helped a professional player improve, there would be people knocking on my door asking to help. This player had also played for England and England, and indeed the GB players could be doing better.

Was I under the radar, did the teams have other agenda’s to improve performance or were they skeptical of my strategies? I’ll never know!

So I reached out to other people in the world and had three successes using NLP strategies and let me share with you the one client that felt the biggest shift.

I was approached by an actress, I can’t for the life of me remember how we connected, but her issue was one I had been trained to overcome and I was eager to help her.

She made it clear, when I visited her house, she shared with her husband, he wasn’t to know she was taking these sessions and so we had to coordinate an hours time slot over six weeks. She felt he may scoff at this type of help.

She would learn her lines for auditions, yet when she stood in front of three, maybe four people involved with casting, she panicked, lost focus and forgot her lines. She was divested at this recurring outcome.

This irrational fear was limiting her potential as she was creating a negative dialogue in her mind which was creating the emotion of fear and panic, leading her to fluff her lines.

We completed the Timeline strategy which got some movement from her, but it was another conversation we had that opened up some valuable information we had to explore further and deeper.

She had a friend. The actress had an underlying issue with this friend which was creating a block and that block was linked to her forgetting her lines.

Her friend would call her and ask to pick her up for auditions, but the actress was getting sick of it; plus her friend tended to get the roles over her. She was in direct competition with her friend.

She was tired of saying yes to her friend and wanted to learn to say ‘no’.

We talked and as I learned more about the actress, we formed a plan which included a strategy to help her say ‘no’ to her friend for the first time.

You may think saying no to someone is easy. Logically it is. But when you attach a fearful thought and emotion to that action, saying no can be the hardest thing to do in the world as we fear the worse.

So we prepared a dialogue both internally and externally until she was ready and I had her back.

She picked up the phone and dialled the number. As she dialled, I could see her tense up. Her shoulders lifted, her eyes widened and she looked imbalanced.

It was ringing!

We looked at each other and I gave her a look of confidence and when her friend picked up the phone, she went straight into character.

I heard every word and as soon as she hung up, her shoulders dropped as though a burden had been lifted and a huge smile came across her face!

She text me a few days later saying she’d got a part and was ecstatic!

NLP is powerful in so many ways as this actress learned and appreciated.

There is a simple formula that many people and coaches will tell you.

An Event leads to a thought, which leads to an emotion which leads to behaviour/actions/performance.

Event – Thought – Emotion – behaviour

It’s these four words that, when you’re ready to make change in your life, you need to understand and begin to become self-aware and learn to change your thoughts.

Although I had success with the actress, I wanted more and was thirsty for knowledge.

Find out next time why I travelled around the North West of England to film 200 basketball players.

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The Journey To Become The Most Sought After Sports Mental Performance Specialist Part 2

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.”

Michael Jordan

When I got back home…

Something wasn’t sitting right with me.

Before I was leaving to head home and just before Ali made the comment about me being a great NLP Practitioner, he was waiting in a room with his staff, I believe his business partner and his PA and I went in and asked if there was anything I could do for him.

I was a little bit star struck as he presented himself as a celebrity Life Coach and had worked with Kelly Rowland and others and he talked the talk so I was happy to help him out and I thought showing my eagerness would show him I was serious about making a go of this NLP career.

But on my way back after completing the task he asked me to do, I turned the corner to the room and was met by faces that looked like they had just been caught discussing me behind my back. You know that sudden silence and blankness?

In hindsight, I should have said something but what do you say in those moments?

I left it, did what i needed to do and made my way back home.

NLP was new and exciting and I was eager to try it out and follow his instructions on how to make it in the self-development world.

This was it! This was the start of something special. I’d take my new skills, begin to help people, they would pay me handsomely and the world would be a better place.

But I had other things going on and my focus wasn’t as great as it could have been. I had applied to become a Games Maker for the 2012 Olympic Games and I was travelling down to London for Test Events and training. For a year I was part of the Process and in 2012 I was selected to be a basketball Games Maker filling the Field Of Play role, meaning, I was to be courtside for games! I had one vision for that Olympics which was to be sat court-side for the men’s final and I was determined to make sure it happened.

It was the night before the final and up to now I had been a professional volunteer and created memories and friends that I cherish even today. Watching the best players in the world compete close up was unreal!

One of the volunteers, Craig and I sat in a bar and talked about the final as we had both been selected to volunteer that game and we both knew the positions would be posted in the morning. We wanted to be posted in positions we wanted to be in. So we decided to text the manager and let him know the exact spots we wanted to accompany in the second half and waited.

The next morning as we checked the list, we broke out in huge smiles!

For the men’s final I was sat mid-court watching the USA take on Spain. I kept shifting my vision from the court to the people behind me, specifically the area where VIP’s were gathered including Arnold Schwarzenegger, David Stern,Boris Johnson and I believe David Beckham and Mark Zuckerberg. I sat still, taking in the atmosphere and feeling great because I took action to make this moment happen.

In 2013, I got a new lease of life and a focus.

I’m a basketball player and coach, so helping basketball players was first on my agenda. I started to research and found a newspaper column in the local paper the Manchester Evening News, written by a current player on the Professional basketball team The Manchester Giants.

I had a connection with the team, a friend who was the physio but also to the coach, Jeff Jones, whom I’d known for about 20 years. I knew a few of the players as well.

He told the readers he was struggling and wanted to get out of his slump, so naturally I reached out to him and we agreed to chat on the phone. I’d implement the NLP strategies I’d learned and it was this conversation that led to him writing an article on how he turned his game around.

Not only did he go from averaging 5 points a game and struggling, he exploded for 20 points and hit 100% from the field, a rarity in basketball!

But don’t take my word for it…read his column here.

After you’ve read the article, join me next time in part 3 as to why I hooked up with an actress!


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The media and celebrity status – what can be done differently?

Before anyone becomes a celebrity, they are first a human being with desires and a passion to do well at their craft.

Whether it’s acting, presenting or sports, it is their desire to succeed that drives them forward.

As they drive forward, Some others begin to take notice and others see opportunity and it is here where the problems are born.

Some others see opportunity to make money and enhance their own brand and drive their own passion forward through this person. 

Some others think of themselves first. 
Some agents, sponsorships, the press; some have their own agenda.

Some will say they care about the person as their journey forward grows. 

Some only care about making money and making their own living.

The thing is we all have to make a living. 

So how can the relationship between the media and celebrities change
Two things stand out

  1. Celebrities and those in the public eye must have coaching in how to handle changes, challenges and those moments when it seems everything is going wrong. 
  2. Agents, sponsors and the press must understand how to recognise when a person is struggling and back off and show support rather than dismiss them.  They must understand, this person is striving to make a living in the only way they know how, just as they are. 

This change isn’t just about being kind but understanding us humans make mistakes and as much as we love what we do, we don’t always get it right. 

I’m sure there are people feeling guilty after what’s happened to Caroline flack and I say this to those people – if you could change how you spoke or reported on her on social media or the press, what would you do differently? 

Change can happen. Change can be good and change can still provide you with a decent living, doing what you do best, WITHOUT creating an environment of destruction.

If you know of anyone struggling I urge you to pass on my details.

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IF YOU PROCRASTINATE, YOU NEED TO READ THIS

You battle back and forth with a thought, trying desperately to figure out the best thing to do.

You think you’ve landed on a solution but then you um and ah, and change your mind.

Before you know it, you throw your arms up in the air and end up not making a decision!

This only makes you more frustrated and that thought keeps coming back to bite you on the ass!

With Christmas just a couple of days away, is there something that needs your attention but you procrastinate about making a decision?

Do or do you not visit the in-laws?

Do you or do you not get in touch with friends you’ve not seen for ages?

Do you or do you not stick to your diet?

Do you go for the audition or not?

Do you ask for a transfer or not?

Do or do you not choose to take control of your procrastination problems?

Here are some perspectives to help you…

  • Make a decision and allow the consequences or rewards to present themselves
  • Accept the consequences and reflect on what you can do differently next time
  • Accept the rewards and celebrate your decision
  • Never make a decision from an emotional perspective
  • You can control what you think and do, but you can’t control what others think and do – If you worry about what others will think, remember you can allow yourself to take control for what you believe is right
  • In time your confidence in making decisions will strengthen

All you need to do now it take action.

Take it easy

Mike

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Are you a professional sport person, in the public eye or organisation with mental health on their agenda?

It’s time to take steps forward in the battle to tackle mental health.

After in depth research and experience, it’s time to look at mental health from a new perspective.

If you’re struggling with mental health or want to address mental health as part of your agenda, then this video is a must watch!

I invite you to leave your thoughts and ideas to create discussion around this topic

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Tell me what’s going on in your head

The issue and topic of mental health is one that needs constant attention because there are some people that have yet to understand what they can do to help.

In this short video, I talk about some ideas that can be implemented immediately to help those who are suffering.

Please comment and share with your community because sometimes there are people who hide their struggles well, and this may help them reach out.

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WHY YOU SHOULD LEARN TO SAY ‘NO’

Here’s a quick challenge for you.

Next time you’re alone say the word ‘no’ out loud.

You’ll find even the thought of saying it out loud with no-one around feels simple and easy.

Why?

Because there’s no potential consequence.

But what happens when you think there’s a consequence?

Saying this little word, becomes a challenge or even impossible!

I worked with an actress a few years ago who had a friend she’d pick up and attend auditions together but it was always her friend that got the part!

She felt she wanted to start going alone so she could practice on her own but was fearful of telling her friend she couldn’t pick her up.

On this particular day during our session, she told me she was due to pick her friend up but she wanted to say no to her.

I listened to her concerns and like anyone she was worried her friend would fall out with her, she would despise her, they would fall out and where would that leave their friendship…

We sat down and worked out a couple of sentences she would use in the phone call to her friend. The call was to plan a time to pick her up.

But this time, it was a call to say she couldn’t pick her up.

My client was nervous and clearly had the weight of the world on her shoulders, but we made a plan.

I can see her now, picking the phone up, dialling and waiting.

When her friend picked up the phone, she exchanged pleasantries before uttering the sentence we had planned.

Guess what happened?

As soon as my client hung up the phone, the relief was clear to see. Her body language was relaxed and she was smiling. She’d made a huge step forward in her personal development and gained back control of her life.

She got a part not too long afterwards.

Saying ‘no’ isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of courage and self-compassion.

Is there someone you want to say ‘no’ to?

Is there a part of your life your want to get back?

Comment below or contact me and let’s create a plan for you

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FRUSTRATED FOOTBALLER OR ACTOR? THEN YOU NEED TO READ THIS!

When you were younger, you enjoyed what you did because it was fun and exciting and life was good.

There was no pressure, no sense of urgency and there was a sense of doing what you did because you loved it. There was a special connection between you and your craft.

Then something happened.

There was a time in your life when your acting life or football life changed.

You may be able to identify that point in your life, or you may not but you know something changed.

Perhaps you began to get paid, maybe you received a great review or a coach spoke highly of you?

Maybe you signed a professional contract?

People began to take notice of you

People began to be drawn to you

People offered you things you had never had before

Life was good!

But then something else happened.

You began to feel frustrated, tired and low on your luck

The passion you once had for your craft no longer burned as bright as it did when you were younger

Perhaps you stopped receiving offers?

Perhaps you fell out of the playing rotation in your team or got transferred?

Perhaps you’re now living a life you didn’t expect and you want things to change, and the quicker they change, the better!

But you don’t know what to do!

There are so many things at risk.

You worry about letting others down like family and friends, your coach, team mates, friends..so you do nothing.

But what about you?

It’s your life!

So what do you do? Continue to worry about what others may say or do?

Being in the public eye has it’s challenges and some people thrive in that environment.

But some people falter and struggle to deal with what fame and fortune brings to the table.

There’s a powerful saying I once heard that will give you some strength and it goes like this…

“It’s not what others think of you or expect of you, but how you perceive yourself to grow and thrive in the environment in which you live”

Discover a new perspective on your situation and start to live a life you deserve. Find a way to rediscover that passion and allow yourself to feel good and improve your performances!

If this article resonates with you and you want things to change for the better, I’m inviting you to take two small steps towards making that change a reality.

Firstly

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Secondly follow the instructions

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Take it easy

Mike