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How Does A Mental Performance Coach Help Professional Football Players?

When a professional footballer in the Premier league or Championship is struggling, they have to do something differently, quickly!

Here are what some players said about my program…

“Just read it Mike. I love it, there is all the stuff ive been wanting to learn about.”

“All because of you helped me to increase my strength as both mentally and physically to carryon trying out things”

“Definitely since I first spoke to you I haven’t felt any negative thoughts or anxiety completely at all which is fantastic! but was definitely down to releasing those problems verbally.”

Watch the video below to find out how you can benefit

Not a footballer? Please share with a player you know would benefit.

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Take these three steps towards a healthier mind and body

Mental health issues are rising!

Physical health issues are rising!

Resilience and ability to overcome challenges are falling!

What’s going on?

Why are people struggling more with life than they were a few years ago?

Is the introduction of social media a cause?

Are poor eating habits to blame?

Is lack of exercise a problem?

I could share statistics and graphs to show you an increase in issues but instead I want you to look around you and listen to conversations around you, in work, in your social circles and in public.

Just today, I overheard people talking about leaving their jobs due to added stress coming from senior management.

I saw a mother stressed out with her young child in the supermarket and have had open conversations with people who openly spoke about their anxiety.

The NHS is struggling, creaking under the pressure of people being diagnosed with anxiety and depression, waiting times are on the increase and just a few weeks ago, targets were not being met.

“Something different needs to be done!”

I believe us humans have an inner strength many of us don’t realise we have.

But rather than focus on drawing out and nurturing that inner strength, that self-compassion and ability to look after our bodies and minds, we allow other insignificant people and situations drag us down.

We fail to give ourselves permission to say no!

We fail to give ourselves permission to say enough is enough!

Let me ask you this – Whatever is bothering you right now, are you willing to do something about it or are you tolerating it to keep the peace?

Has something been bothering you for that long, you know you’ve changed as a person but you believe a sign of strength is to get through adversity?

Fuck that!

You only have one life!

Doing something about it is a sign of strength and courage.

You only get one go at this life so if something is bothering you or you’ve been tolerating something for so long, it’s time to do things differently.

I was speaking with a friend earlier who suffers from nerves during her driving lessons. She’s had many lessons with the same instructor and feels she’s hit a wall. She felt stuck and thinks her nerves are stopping her from feeling ready to be put in for her test.

But here’s the weird thing.

When she consciously gave herself permission to think about changing instructors, she suddenly relaxed and had the best lesson ever!

Even her instructor said so!

Allowing herself to consider a new perspective, changed her mindset and therefore thinking which led to an improved behaviour.

Imagine you’re working in a job you tolerate, perhaps hate, and you’re tolerating it. You’re frustrated but you need to pay the bills. So you crack on but look for jobs.

Then you get offered a job!

That sense of relief can be an amazing feeling and can relax the mind in an instance, just be hearing the words “We’d like to offer you the job”

We have the power within us to change the internal dialogue that allows us to move forward and change for the better.

But very few people know how.

Professional sports men and women feel they have to tolerate situations because getting paid to play sports is all they know; especially footballers and because it’s so competitive, those who are suffering are fearful of opening up or talking about it in case they lose their place in the team or are ridiculed.

So they find themselves in a downward spiral, gambling, staying in their rooms during the day with the curtains closed and even worse…

I want to share with you three tips that can help you improve your situation right now…

  • Ask yourself “What do I want my ideal situation to be?”
  • Then ask “What can I let go of, or introduce to my life to take one step towards that ideal situation?”
  • And finally “When will I let go or introduce that thing to allow myself to take one step towards my ideal situation?”

One step…

One step…

One step…

Please comment with your thoughts and share this blog with your network as you may just help one person out today.

If you want help and advice #tellmewhatsgoingoninyourhead

Take it easy

Mike

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Two great pieces of advice from young footballers any youngster should pay attention to

Over the past few days I was honoured to connect with a couple of young football players as they had been reading my blog posts and found some value in the content.

These eager players gave me their permission to ask them a variety of questions and I want to bring your attention to the answers they gave to three questions.

These three questions cover three major aspects of football,

  • Highlights
  • Problems
  • How to succeed

The intention of this blog post is to help younger players understand the ups and downs of football so they can make adjustments where needed and live a life they deserve.

Question 1 What is your highlight of your career?

Player 1 said – “When I played against Barcelona, Villareal, Celtics, Bristol City lots of more”

Player 2 said – “My highlights was playing in cameroon ligue 1 in 2015/2016 seeing the strong level of players there and also played with the cameroon world cup legends of 1990/1994/1998.
Another highlight is winning the mongolian cup and league runner up in 2012.”

The answers to the next question got my attention.

Question 2 Do you know of any struggling professional players?

Player 1 said – “Yeah I’ve seen it and I’ve talk to few of them which also helped my mentality in my young age.”

Player 2 said – “Yes there are many pro players who are struggling and it affects their mental health as well. Football can be a cruel game and many people /fans dont see the other side of it.”

I’m very aware of the mental health issues players have and for a young player to understand this, tells me he’s got a caring nature and an observant attitude.

The final question that I’ll share the answers to was great to read and really gives me an idea of their mindsets when it comes to success.

Question 3 – If you could give advice to younger players, what would it be?

Player 1 said – “No matter if you play football or do anything else that can guide you to your future in good way and that’ll benefit you and your family, make sure you keep working hard, getting support from people around you also from yourself. Never never think to give up, set back and start thinking about solutions that’ll come from yourself, big commitments, high dedication, be positive and patience and confidence enough to keep moving forward as when things are against you and remember to not lose your smile”

Player 2 said – “My advice for youngsters is to keep having a positive mindset and the desire to be better and train harder. In football there is always someone training harder than u so to be better and keep up the food chain, you have to keep fighting. End of the day, its how badly you want it at all costs.”

Thank you to the two players that shared their thoughts and I know they are working hard and striving to improve.

Are you a player with some value to share?

Perhaps you want to improve your situation?

Please drop me a message and let’s see what we can do.

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The importance of investing in yourself as a professional football player

Just read these real life situations of where life has taken a turn for the worse for these former players…

In 2014 a study by the Professional Players’ Federation found footballers are three times more likely to have gambling issues than the average population – Source https://www.moneynest.co.uk/bankrupt-footballers/

Eidur Gudjohnsen said he lost £400,000 over five months after boredom crept in following an injury – Source https://www.moneynest.co.uk/bankrupt-footballers/

Dean Windass – Former Hull City Striker declared bankrupcy following HMRC tax bills of £164,000 based on an investment he made which never paid him a penny – Source https://www.moneynest.co.uk/bankrupt-footballers/

Rio Ferdinand, Andy Cole, Robbie Savage, Martin Keown and Danny Murphy were also rumored to have invested in investments schemes by Kingsbridge Asset Management which earned millions in commissions before turning sour — Source https://www.moneynest.co.uk/bankrupt-footballers/

A footballer who played for three of the game’s biggest clubs sobs after learning he’ll soon be made bankrupt. The chairman of a Premier League outfit sighs, before granting his captain an advance on his wages for the last time following another costly defeat at the roulette table. Inside a court, a player pleads with a judge to reduce his child maintenance payments after frittering away his fortune. – Source – https://www.fourfourtwo.com/features/why-do-so-many-footballers-end-broke-fourfourtwo-investigates#jUalUL8BDkKmTrIk.99 

More than a quarter of professional footballers suffer from depression or anxiety problems, according to a new study carried out by the international players’ union FIFPro. The research showed that 26 per cent of players reported the mental health problems with that figure rising to 39 per cent among retired players. – Source https://www.telegraph.co.uk/sport/football/10739111/One-in-four-footballers-suffer-depression-study-reveals.html

What is happening! Why does such a brilliant opportunity, to play football and be paid handsomely for it, create so much pain and self-abuse?

Quite simply there is a reason and I’ll explain it the best I can.

Football gives players an identity. It gives them a sense of purpose and self-worth and confidence and can bring plenty of extrinsic rewards.

Some football players falsely assume extrinsic rewards will help them meet their needs. The more money, followers and attention they have, the more their needs are met.

BUT…

Football, falsely gives players a solution to their needs.

People go wrong when they try to get external things like money to meet their intrinsic needs.

Some footballers wrongly assume if their extrinsic needs are met, this equates to happiness and fulfilment.

But in reality it’s their intrinsic needs that need to be addresses first and this is where the gap in development sits.

IT WOULD BE WISE TO INVEST IN SELF – DEVELOPMENT SO AS NOT TO FALL FOUL OF THESE FACTORS

If a player’s self-confidence and self-worth is at a low, or they are in unfamiliar territory, their intrinsic needs aren’t being met. They turn to extrinsic factors to help them deal with the imbalance. Gambling, drink, spending money on expensive toys, etc.

These actions only hinder and drag down the player, not just mentally but in performance.

Sooner or later they will crash and burn.

Their identity as a football player will be and can be lost in an instance!

And this isn’t right and it doesn’t sit right with me.

Being involved in sports, I knew of a player that committed suicide and also spoken to people in sports who know of players that have suffered and are suffering.

Life is about giving back to those who can benefit from your knowledge and through giving back, some of your intrinsic needs are met.

Some players set up foundations and trusts as did Jamie Carragher and his charity is doing great things. Find out more here https://jamiecarragher23.com

The service I established helps professional football players understand and improve their value and performance so they can maximise their revenue while they are playing but also plan ahead for the future, therefore tackling the two main issues around football today.

If you would like to know more about what and how I help footballers, please get in touch.

Take it easy

Mike

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FRUSTRATED FOOTBALLER OR ACTOR? THEN YOU NEED TO READ THIS!

When you were younger, you enjoyed what you did because it was fun and exciting and life was good.

There was no pressure, no sense of urgency and there was a sense of doing what you did because you loved it. There was a special connection between you and your craft.

Then something happened.

There was a time in your life when your acting life or football life changed.

You may be able to identify that point in your life, or you may not but you know something changed.

Perhaps you began to get paid, maybe you received a great review or a coach spoke highly of you?

Maybe you signed a professional contract?

People began to take notice of you

People began to be drawn to you

People offered you things you had never had before

Life was good!

But then something else happened.

You began to feel frustrated, tired and low on your luck

The passion you once had for your craft no longer burned as bright as it did when you were younger

Perhaps you stopped receiving offers?

Perhaps you fell out of the playing rotation in your team or got transferred?

Perhaps you’re now living a life you didn’t expect and you want things to change, and the quicker they change, the better!

But you don’t know what to do!

There are so many things at risk.

You worry about letting others down like family and friends, your coach, team mates, friends..so you do nothing.

But what about you?

It’s your life!

So what do you do? Continue to worry about what others may say or do?

Being in the public eye has it’s challenges and some people thrive in that environment.

But some people falter and struggle to deal with what fame and fortune brings to the table.

There’s a powerful saying I once heard that will give you some strength and it goes like this…

“It’s not what others think of you or expect of you, but how you perceive yourself to grow and thrive in the environment in which you live”

Discover a new perspective on your situation and start to live a life you deserve. Find a way to rediscover that passion and allow yourself to feel good and improve your performances!

If this article resonates with you and you want things to change for the better, I’m inviting you to take two small steps towards making that change a reality.

Firstly

Click the link below

Secondly follow the instructions

Start your change now by clicking here

Take it easy

Mike